Claiming One’s Own Personal Power


Ecstasy by Maxfield Parrish



‘Your personal power is not something that is going to reveal itself at some later date. Your personal power is a result of your decision to reveal it. You are powerful in whatever moment you choose to be. The choice to be used as an instrument of love, right here, right now, is a choice for personal empowerment.’

~?Marianne Williamson, from A Year of Daily Wisdom Calendar


Persons of high self-esteem are not driven to make themselves superior to others; they do not seek to prove their value by measuring themselves against a comparative standard. Their joy is being who they are, not in being better than someone else.’

~?Nathaniel Branden


‘Authority comes from within and stops at the skin.’

~?Paul Ferrini


I remember a time when my children were younger and while playing outside with friends, I heard my eldest daughter say, Hey! You’re not the boss of me!! I mused at her statement and curiously peeked outside to see the expressions of the other children faces in this moment. Surprise!! No one argued or made a big deal out of it. They just paused for a second, ‘got back into their skin’ and continued on playing. Wow, I thought, if only we grown ups could keep it that simple.

Having been given the opportunity to grow up in many diverse neighborhoods, I learned that while there may be some cultural differences as to physical features, dress, eating habits and such, human nature is basically the same where ever you live. Everyone wants to be accepted as they are in this moment. This world is filled with many opportunities to learn how to do this universal dance.

We’ve all experienced moments with others in being judged and also being the judge. You know the that’s not the way, this is the ‘right’ way. And if you don’t do it their way or they don’t do it your way then you receive or give the cold shoulder or look. It all comes down to an authority issue. Judging another comes from an attitude of superiority and seeing another as inferior. We’ve all played both sides of this equation. It doesn’t seem to work very well does it?

Hmm. So I Ask what is the message here? What is the lesson I am being shown here?

Each time I am in the position of making a judgment or I am receiving one from another, I can choose to shift my perception of what I’m seeing in front of me differently. Let it in or let it go by allowing it just to be. A lesson in learning to Trust that It is What It Is for you as well as for me. Honestly, I find having a lighthearted So What? attitude is very helpful in keeping myself centered on my life and accepting another’s right to live their life as they choose as well. A lot more relaxing and less stressful.

I stop seeing the need to ‘fix’ another or anything. I can choose to lovingly say no to another who wishes to ‘fix or save’ me and I am also free to choose to be responsible for my own choices. If one wishes to be offended when you are lovingly maintaining your own position, well, they, like you, are the authority of their own lives, thoughts and emotions. It doesn’t take a knock down drag out fight to state your position or to respect theirs. You can choose to walk away from the fence line peacefully and Trust that the Highest Good is being done for all.

?I can choose to see no offense because I see nothing needing to be defended, in?myself towards anyone. I am certain of who I Am.

I remember something my dad said to me once as teenager when, someone told him I had gone to an Elton John concert in Glasgow, Scotland in the company of hippie and military stoner’s. He said, ‘Hon, I’m your dad, and I am not here to tell you how to live your life, I am only here to help guide you until you are old enough to guide yourself.’ This statement was a shock because I was honestly?expecting the proverbial axe to fall. I’ve remembered this experience in the back of my mind through the years since becoming a mother and a guide to my daughters and now grandchildren.

My children are now grown are very good at being honest with me when I overstep my bounds. They are also wonderful at expanding my ongoing learning to Love experience of this ever changing life. We have held hands together and we take turns, I in leading them and they in leading me as well. We do this dance together, learning to not step on each others toes and allowing a deeper Love to be experienced through acceptance of one’s own choices. Going with the flow and rhythm of life. Each one sings their own note and adds to the harmony.

‘The wisest follow their own direction.’ ~ Euripedes

Allowing others to be the owner of their lives is about equality for all aspects of God. In Truth, we are free to make decisions for ourself only. To say to another, you cannot know God’s Unconditional Love unless you stop this or do this is an oxymoron. It is God Self saying to God Self, you can’t be God. It is basically saying one is not good enough until a hoop is jumped mentality. I find this thought both amusing and sad at the same time, because I recognize having done this myself as well as in observing others doing it.

Wherever I have lived on this planet, I have seen what most would consider a blight to society, the homeless. I worked for a friend’s company who decorated Christmas for Corporate America one holiday season. Her warehouse was in the inner city. One morning as I was going over a van for the day’s activities, I heard a noise and peeked around the van. I saw a man closing a dumpster and he walked towards me with a cup of coffee in one hand and a cigarette in another. Good Morning Ma’am. I greeted him in return. He pulled something out of his pocket and hands me a lemon. Here, eat this and you won’t catch a cold in the winter. I thanked him for his gift and as he walked away, I was touched by this momentary experience.

As I looked into this man’s eyes I saw something that reminded me of a scripture that said, ‘Be not forgetful to entertain strangers; for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.’ Hebrews 13:2. I had respect for this man. He gave me a gift freely with no thought of asking for anything and he carried himself with such dignity. I saw God in this man’s eyes. All of us Beings are unique aspects of One Source of Living. Who am I to judge otherwise by removing another’s right to live their life the way they choose?

No one knows what another one’s intimate relationship or agreement is with our One Creator. I am only asked to do unto other’s as I would have other’s do unto me. Give Respect and Love to all by accepting every position whatever it may be in this life. Every life is an act of Worship to our Divine Creator. It is in honoring another that we honor ourselves and our own lives. The soul walks many paths to return to our Source of Life. We are the unique Divine author’s of our own lives. This humbles me especially when I am choosing to judge another or myself.

The Universe is diverse. I see many varieties of colors of skin, hair, eyes and lifestyles. One isn’t superior or inferior to another. It’s the externals containing an Eternal Divine Being. So many life stories abound. This is what makes life so interesting. Appreciating the differences in one another without judgment and loving each other freely because we Know that we are all from Divine Source within. I always have the power to choose how I perceive my life, as interesting or irritating. Again, another choice. Freedom to choose or not. Equality or Inequality. What I give out returns to me in full measure. Superiority, Inferiority, Inequality, or Equality.

Personal Power isn’t meant to be given away nor taken away by or from another.

?‘Everytime you don’t follow your own inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, a loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness.’

~ Shakti Gawain

Getting Back into One’s Own Skin and……

Being One’s Own Boss……Honoring You as I Honor Myself…..


Many Blessings, Be Well, and InJoy this day,

Being as You were intentionally Created to Be,

Living as an InPowered Being,



Copyright ? 2008 – 2011

Photo: Ecstacy by Maxfield Parrish

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