“I have often thought what a melancholy world this would be without children, and what an inhuman world without the aged”

~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge

“Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once; just once, understand.”

~ UnKnown

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

~ Leo F. Buscaglia

“I feel the capacity to care is the thing which gives life its deepest significance.”

~ Pablo Casals

“Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.”
~ Albert Camus

I shared a lot of quotes for this video. After watching this InSpiring video, I felt these quotes expressed so well how I feel after watching it. I salute this wonderful man, Jose Antonio Abreu for living his dream in such a way that his love and passion became an influence that began with children and it just continued to flow from there. He found a way to share his love of music to raise the level of life for many others, and I say we can do this as well when our purpose is filled with a passionate heart whose purpose is for uplifting the quality of life of another. When our purpose is the soul reason why we do what what we do. We share the love inside with another and it spreads…

Many Blessings and Be Well,

May watching this video Inspire you, to see how you can make a difference in another life, and what you can do too with what you may think is just an ordinary something, when you follow your dream to live within your greatest potential on this earth with the sole desire to bless another as you have been so blessed…

InJoy being a person of dignity by InPowering and InCouraging another to see and know of their dignity too.

Blessings InLove ~

Julia

Children Transformed By Music

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‘You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition.  What you’ll discover will be wonderful.  What you’ll discover is yourself.’ 

~ Alan Alda

‘It is good to feel lost… because it proves you have a navigational sense of where “Home” is.  You know that a place that feels like being found exists.  And maybe your current location isn’t that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lost-ness just brought you closer to it.’

~  Erika Harris, lifeblazing.com

‘Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.’ 

~ Henry David Thoreau

This is an excellent, thought provoking, soul stirring article by Allan Hardman that opened my eyes to seeing men from a very different place as well as myself and so it is with heartfelt appreciation for Allan Hardman allowing me to share this here. Namaste` Allan.

Many Blessings, Be Well ~

InJoy the view ~

Dancing InLove’s Joy ~

Julia

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The Impotent Hero—
Healing The Wounded Masculine

By Allan Hardman, Toltec Master

This article was originally published in “The Heart of Healing—Inspired Ideas, Wisdom and Comfort from Today’s Leading Voices.” Elite Books, Author’s Publishing Cooperative, Santa Rosa, CA, 95403.  ©  Allan Hardman, 2005

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Introduction

Romantic relationship has been both a blessing and nightmare for many people in this new millennium. In the past, the rules of relationship were relatively structured and well enforced by families and cultures. Many relationships were based on the need for security and financial well-being in an uncertain world. Often, mates were chosen based on others’ expectations, class, race, or religious backgrounds.

Now, with financial independence being available to most, and ethic and cultural distinctions blurring, men and women are left more to their own discernment and integrity for choosing mates and establishing the rules and expectations of relationship. Along with this freedom has come increasing confusion and uncertainty in relationships of romance and marriage.

One consistent factor that I have observed in my work with singles and couples is their caution or outright fear of each other. They are not able to be present in their relationships with the truth of who they are and what they are feeling. I invite you to consider the following suggestions about what causes much of this difficulty.

I am writing this as a man, using heterosexual relationships as the model. Please understand that the dynamics I describe are not limited to those relationships. Wherever I have written “man” or “woman,” please substitute “masculine” or “feminine” if it better serves your understanding. Know that the masculine and feminine can be dominant in any gender and interact in any relationship form. It is my hope that these observations will serve you, no matter what form of relationship you choose.

Who taught you what it means to be a Man?

After asking this question of countless men, I have learned that the answer is often not what one might expect. The first responses are usually “I learned to be a man from my Dad,” or “my Uncle” or a respected mentor. Then a deeper truth emerges: “My dad wasn’t around much,” or “Dad left when I was six,” or “My dad was an alcoholic.” With deeper exploration, most men are surprised to discover that it was not their fathers who taught them what it means to be a man, but their mothers.

They are often even more surprised to realize that the message that they received from their mothers was “Don’t be like your Dad.” The message might have been delivered overtly, when Mother was home at night and Dad was out drinking. She felt alone, abandoned, and afraid. She turned to her young son and said: “I hope you don’t grow up to be a bum like your worthless father. He is not home, he is not taking care of us, and I am left to do everything.” Another boy, in a gentler family situation, might simply observe that his mother is unhappy, and receive the message intuitively. Perhaps she has sacrificed too much of her self for the marriage, and feels lost or unfulfilled.

In either case, the young boy feels this hurt in his mother, and looks for the cause. He does not have to look far to identify his father as the perpetrator of the abuse his mother is suffering. “Mother is hurt, and Dad is hurting her.”

A variation on this dynamic occurs when Dad is carrying the feminine energy in the family, and Mom the masculine. Perhaps Dad is complaining about Mom, and it is his feelings that are hurt. The genders in the story are reversed, but the resulting beliefs and agreements learned are the same: The masculine hurts the feminine.

I believe that males are genetically programmed to be Heroes, and to protect and rescue Damsels in Distress. When a young boy sees his mother hurt, lonely, angry, or depressed, he wants to rescue her. It is his nature. To be a good Hero, there must be a Villain– and the boy has learned that the Villain is Dad. If the boy stands up to his Dad and tries to stop him from hurting his mother, he will quickly learn how impotent he is to protect and rescue her.

And here the boy encounters the conundrum that may be with him for the rest of his life: The Villain is not only Dad, it is “maleness,” and the boy has identified himself with that same maleness all of his short life. He is both the Hero wanting to rescue, and the Villain causing the pain. 

The young boy becomes the Impotent Hero, trying to protect and rescue his Damsel in Distress from himself, which he cannot do. He takes on the guilt of the Villain, and the guilt of his failure as the Impotent Hero. That conundrum has shaped the life and relationships of many of the men that have answered my question about learning to be a man. They go into the world feeling guilty for being male. They know they are a man, and they  know that men hurt women. They know their job is to rescue women in distress, and that they cannot. They are guilty AND impotent. Rarely is a man conscious of this drama being played out in his inner world.

The Impotent Hero as The Inner Judge

Another way that a boy learns that his Hero is impotent is when it becomes embodied as his Inner Judge. In a perfect world, everyone would be born into a family environment that says: “We are so honored that you are here. We are humbled that we have been chosen as stewards of your precious Life. We will create a safe physical and psychic space here that will protect and nurture your growth into who you came here to be.” In the perfect world, children would grow up feeling safe to be themselves, and become whole and empowered adults. They would share that wholeness in all of their relationships.

Since this is not a perfect world, there is unavoidable hurt and wounding that happens to children. Probably the most damaging wound is when the Inner Hero as the Protector, is distorted into an Inner Judge under pressure to conform to the family’s system of beliefs.

Imagine that a young boy or girl has a feeling part of the self, and a protective part. For purposes of illustration, I will call the feelings the “feminine” and the rescuer and protector the “masculine.” Children express themselves through their feeling side. They experience exuberance and delight, and tears and fears. In the not so perfect world, many of these expressions are unacceptable to their parents or other caregivers. The feelings and the behaviors that naturally arise in the child are judged, and the child feels hurt by this rejection. Children are “domesticated” into the prevailing beliefs systems about how to be good, and how to earn and deserve love. They learn to seek out the reward of acceptance, and to avoid the punishment of rejection.

When the child is punished, the feelings are hurt. The “feminine” aspect of the self is the Damsel in Distress, and the “masculine” is the Hero that rushes in to protect and rescue. Perhaps that Hero yells out to a parent in a difficult moment: “I hate you, you are mean. Leave me alone!!” I think we can imagine (or remember) the response of most parents to this outburst. (Some older books on child rearing warn that this is a pivotal moment in the raising of a child, and that its will must be broken at this time, or they will grow up to be “willful, spoiled and unmanageable children.”)

If the child is punished for this attempt by his or her inner Hero to stop the abuse against the feeling side, this inner Protector realizes that he cannot stop the outside perpetrators. He is impotent to protect and rescue the feminine., so he must create a new strategy. He must protect the feeling side by getting “her” to stop the emotional behaviors that are causing the rejection and abuse. He learns to make the feeling self wrong for what she feels. The Inner Hero becomes the Inner Judge, a small masculine self, impotent in the outside world, but increasingly powerful in the inner world.

This new Inner Judge internalizes the criticism and rejection of parents and culture. He recognizes that it is far less painful to his damsel, the feminine feeling side, to be judged and shamed inside by him than from the outside. The Hero turns to his feminine Damsel and says: “Don’t cry. That is stupid. Don’t let them see you like that! Nobody likes a crybaby!” And, “You don’t know what looks good on you. Ask somebody. You are stupid about clothes.”

The Impotent Protector becomes the Inner Judge, in both little boys and little girls. He is the masculine, wounded by his domestication, and fighting to protect the inner feminine the best way he knows how. Together they are in a battle for their emotional survival.

Relationship Strategies of the Impotent Hero

When a man enters a romantic relationship, if he does so as the guilty Impotent Hero, it is impossible for him to say to a woman: “I am a man, and want you!” He is afraid that she will criticize him and reject him. He believes his Inner Judge’s criticisms, and assumes that his beloved will discover his powerlessness and unworthiness. He needs strategies for maintaining the relationship in the face of his fear of not deserving it.

Probably the three most compelling ways that men enter romantic relationship carrying this feeling of guilt and impotence are as the Rescuer, the Rebel, or masquerading as The Feminine.

The Rescuer creates relationship by offering a woman relief from the hurt and fear that she feels from living with her Inner Judge. Of course, this means that the Rescuer must find Damsels in Distress to rescue. The Hero makes a promise that he cannot keep: “If you are with me, you will not have to feel afraid or hurt or powerless any more.”

He cannot keep that promise for at least two good reasons. First, her distress is not being caused by a deficiency of The Rescuer in her life. Her hurt and fear are the result of experiences from her past, her domestication, and criticism from her own Inner Judge. Second, if he truly rescues her and heals her pain, she will no longer be a Damsel in Distress, and will not need The Rescuer. To stay needed, he must sabotage her healing, and keep her in the Victim role. And she knows that she must stay in that role and not claim her personal power, in order to hold on to the love of her Rescuer. The Rescuer and Damsel stay bonded in their relationship and unable to change or grow, in fear of losing the love and comfort that their mutually compatible wounds have brought them.

TheRebel is very independent. He doesn’t need anyone, especially women that might intimidate him and see through his facades to discover the Impotent Hero within. The Rebel is oddly attractive to women. There is a safety they see in his emotional distance. After many years of exploring why women often accuse men of being “emotionally unavailable” in relationships, I have figured out who is attracted to those men: Emotionally Unavailable Women! This is a safe place for everyone involved. There is no danger of the intimacy that will threaten the facades and reveal the self-judgements and fears behind them.

The Feminine Man creates safety in his relationships with women by becoming like them. Some boys, in an effort to rescue their mothers, bond with them emotionally. As adults, they learn feminine ways of relating to feelings. They do not assert themselves in their relationships– they believe in “equality.” This is the eunuch who dresses up in women’s clothing to hide in the harem. This man dresses in women’s emotions, to avoid being recognized as a man and revealing his guilt and impotence.

Many romantic relationships are based on this foundation of guilt that the man feels for being a man. He must hide his fear of discovery and self-judgement from his partner, and she must agree not to notice.

The Woman’s Role

But what about the woman’s role? Remember that girls are raised in the same system as the boys. They have the same Inner Judge, the same insecurities, and the same fear that the Judge is right about their defects. They are often taught that to survive financially they need a man. They, too, observe that Mom is hurt, angry, or lonely. They understand that maleness is guilty of causing the pain, and that they can use that guilt to meet their own needs in life. Perhaps Mom says: “Your father is never home, I have to do everything myself, I am so tired– but he is good to us and provides us with our home and food, so we should be grateful.” The message? “The man is guilty of hurting us, but we need what he gives us, so we will use his guilt and impotence to keep him providing for us.”

Perhaps the Mother tells or shows her daughters that the real control in the family resides in the females. With their underlying disrespect for their man, they secretly or overtly use their power to manage the family, leaving the man in the role of outside provider– a veritable stranger in his home.

The Unspoken Agreements

If women are afraid of losing their man, and men are afraid of being exposed as Impotent Heroes, then romantic relationship between them will be difficult, at best. They will need many unspoken agreements to manage the dangerous truths that lie beneath the surface.

Many of these silent agreements are brought into the relationship from the distant past, some are from the relationship itself: “I am not really worthy of love, so I am lucky to have found someone who loves me. I will do whatever it takes to hold on to this marriage.” “A good wife is always willing to follow her husband’s lead.” “What is important in relationship is the long haul. If I demand too much, it will cause problems.”  “She threatens to leave me every time I bring up our problems. It is better to work these things out myself, rather than saying anything.”

Every society has its beliefs and agreements about how things “should” be. That society could be a family, a group of friends, a university, a religion, an ethnic group, a political party, or a country. When we are born, we arrive into a family that has already agreed on their system of beliefs. It is their “dream,” and they are sticking to it! Since we are born into that dream, we accept it as the truth, learn the intricacies of it, and then even teach the other new arrivals what we have learned: “Don’t cry, mommy will get mad at you!”

As we grow older, we enter more societies with more beliefs and agreements that govern the behavior of the members. Often, the beliefs contradict each other, but the mind has a marvelous facility for compartmentalizing them to avoid the conflict. Think about how many messages there are in western culture about being a Man. For instance, there are the beliefs in the family I described. Imagine the different perspectives of the vital young man beginning his life in the world, and the aging man who feels his physical power and social authority fading away. There is the message from a man’s religious faith about what it means to be a man, a husband, a son, and a father. There is the image of being a man as a high level manager in a corporation. . . .or a homeless man on the street. Each of these dreams of being a man contains its unique models of behavior, expectations, and the markers of success and failure.

In relationship, all of a man’s beliefs and strategies come together with a partner who has accumulated her own set of agreements about what it means to be a woman, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a lover, and a member of a community. Since most people are not aware of these agreements in a conscious way, they simply react according to what they “know” to be true.

It has been suggested, by some, that men and women are from different planets, and thus talk different languages and have different needs. It is my experience and belief that all of us, men and women, are from the same Earth and have the same desire: To know and love ourselves, to be authentically ourselves in relationship, and to do so without fear of rejection and abandonment.

I believe that it is very possible to have that which we desire. To do so, we must become conscious of our many inner voices and the unconscious messages that they would have us believe. That awareness, in turn, gives us the power to chose which of our beliefs and agreements serve us, and which we wish to discard. In creating our own set of beliefs as adults, we “re-domesticate” ourselves into a new way of life. Our new agreements nurture our freedom to live our lives in love, grace and happiness.

The World’s Greatest Lover

Imagine how we might all relate in romantic relationships if men were proud and powerful in their masculine nature, and women trusted themselves and their man. How might a man show up with his woman if he were not afraid of her? And how might that woman receive that man, if she trusted his masculine?

One of my favorite movies is “Don Juan de Marco,” with Marlon Brando and Johnny Depp. Don Juan is “The World’s Greatest Lover,” and in the movie he says: “Women sense that I search out the beauty that dwells within them, until it overwhelms everything else. And then they cannot avoid their desire to release that beauty, and envelop me in it.”

That is a great lover: A man who searches out the beauty in the feminine with such authority and love that she cannot help but surrender herself to his love. He is saying “I want you.” It is true that a woman can be The World’s Greatest Lover, however there is something inherently masculine about that way of penetrating a woman’s heart.

In the past, women needed to make themselves smaller than their man to surrender to him. Then, awakening to their collective dissatisfaction, they fought for their independence, and their right to assert their masculine power in the world. Women became well balanced in their masculine and feminine energies.

Sensing the change, men set out to connect with their disowned feminine natures. They learned to express their feelings, and to listen to the women in their lives. Many began to say that they preferred the company of women to that of overly masculine men.

Men and women became equals, and this shift in awareness has been very healing. From this balancing came a new dilemma, however: No one wanted to surrender to anybody else, and nobody needed anyone! In this equality many people seem to lack any passion for relationship outside of convenience and sexual pleasure. I would like to suggest that something vital and alive is missing. There is a spiritual healing and purpose to relationship that is available when our Impotent Hero becomes “The World’s Greatest Lover.”

Qualities of  the World’s Greatest Lover

For a man to be The World’s Greatest Lover, he must learn a new way of loving and accepting himself, and his beloved. He must learn that his critical Inner Judge is not telling the truth. He awakens to discover that he was programmed in a certain way to believe his guilt and impotence, and the program is a lie! The World’s Greatest Lover comes to understand that his nature is Love, not the fear and doubt that he has lived with all his life.

He comes to this powerful experience when he is no longer judging himself. When our Hero accepts himself exactly as he is, without pride or deprecation, he is prepared to love and accept others just as they are.

The World’s Greatest Lover sees the perfection in the Universe unfolding exactly as it is. He is no longer victimized by anyone or anything. His power comes from knowing this Divine Order in Life, in trusting it, and keeping his heart open to the wonders of Creation. He is IN Love with Life. He knows himself AS Life, and knows that all of Life is that same Divine perfection.

Knowing his own perfection, The World’s Greatest Lover is not afraid to feel what he feels, nor to think what he thinks. He is not afraid to want what he wants. He is free to come to the feminine, with “I want you!” He is not afraid of rejection, because he has ceased to reject himself.  Of course, this voice is alive in the masculine of both genders. When a man speaks it, and the woman sees that she can trust his authority in it, she has the opportunity to surrender to his wanting. I have not known many women who would refuse to surrender to a man who knows what he wants, through the expression of his Divinity. In a woman’s surrender to this Lover, there is the call to her greatness. She knows she will not be asked to be small, because she feels embraced by the expansiveness of his Divine love.

As she surrenders to him, and he possesses her, he experiences the greatest surrender of all. The World’s Greatest Lover surrenders to the feminine through his absolute certainty of wanting her.

In larger spiritual terms, we can see that the Masculine is opening the feminine to the beauty that he sees. Using the authority of his inner Divine, he acts as a mirror for that Divinity in her. The feminine, as the mate of The World’s Greatest Lover, or as any aspect of Creation, sees her reflection in him. All of Creation is thus penetrated and enlightened by The World’s Greatest Lover.

The Impotent Hero, destined always to rescue, now comes to his Beloved and all of Creation as the Lover, to release her from her illusion that she is not Divine. He celebrates the highest expression of living as a man: As The World’s Greatest Lover, knowing the truth of his Divinity, and reflecting that Divinity back to his Beloved. In that reflection, she joins with him in knowing their highest truth together.

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Biography to use with reproduction of this article

Allan is a gifted spiritual counselor and Toltec Master personally trained by Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. He is a born teacher, whose piercing insight and compassionate humor create a loving environment that supports growth on the path to Personal Freedom. Allan is an expert in emotional healing, and healthy communication in relationships of all kinds. He hosts an online apprentice community at Joydancer.com– a thriving internet resource for spiritual seekers. Allan teaches in Sonoma County, CA, and leads “Journeys of the Spirit” to Peru and Mexico. His extensive web site of writings and journeys is at http://www.joydancer.com/

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 InJoy this day ~

Be Blessed ~ Be Well

Experiencing the very vast Universe we are all living in ~

InLove’s Presence,

Julia

~ Paul Coehlo

‘If you judge people, you have no time to love them.’

~ Mother Teresa

‘Judge a tree from its fruit, not from its leaves.’

~ Euripedes

The true purpose of relationships is to help us to see, understand our Self and then heal our emotional wounds and grow towards our purpose in life. That is why issues arise in our relationships. It is when we are willing to be open to understanding these things from this inner viewing, that allows our perceptions of what we see as being awful, painful and suffering, to shifting more into there being a possibility, that these experiences may be a re-peating message from GodLOVE that our ideas of love might be worth taking the time to spend in reviewing them and then being open to changing them. It is being willing to have a change of heart to see in another way that there just may be other ways to view what we are and have been experiencing and this being willing is what opens us to the many possibilities of seeing the changes coming into fruition in our lives.

‘Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.’

~ Carl Jung

If we feel that someone hasn’t lived up to our ideals of what Love means and ’should’ look like to our Self, and this painful way of relating keeps re-occuring in our lives in our relating with others in our relationships, where it seems to keep leading you into experiencing repeated emotions of hurt, betrayal and painful endings, there is usually hidden expectations at play within. Your own expectations of others or another.

There is freedom in being able to review our expectations of ourself and others and where these expectations have come from, by moving through the fear to see into our self and in being willing to see others differently we are welcoming another way to see beyond what appears to be. Invite GodLove to see through your eyes by opening up your view to a greater one.

This is where ‘Know thyself and all will be known’ can be applied as we journey through with those we have been, are and will be in relationship with.

One by one means for me, that it begins with me and there it remains. I am not here to judge another’s worth, I am here to walk in mine in the fullness that was, is and will continue to be mine Divinely designed by Creator and myself. And it is from this understanding that I can see it this way for another even when one appears to be otherwise in ‘acting’ out. As we do in moments, it only means we have momentarily forgotten who we are and what we are in Truth that was established before we ever step foot on this Earth.

Intimacy occurs within and there it forever remains. And it is recognizing this Self Being enfolded in the Divine Heart that naturally ‘extends’ itself in relating with life and others when living inside the Heart of the One that is the Creator of All. We all are so very unique and different in outward appearances… yet, we say that one must be and do certain things to be ’spirtual’. Books are wonderful yet, they become dogma and we trade dogma for dogma…

We will not judge another as being worthy of Love when we let go of our own judgments of our Self and then using others as our witness of not being ‘God’ - good enough to be Loved.

‘The tendency to turn human judgments into divine commands makes religion one of the most dangerous forces in the world.’

~ Georgia Harkness

We are Loved, Love is not earned, and it is in seeing that this is what has never changed, and it takes time to really, really realize this I have come to understand. After all the things I have walked through to be in this place now, I no longer see one as spiritual due to what one wears, eats, has or does. This is viewing only from the outer appearances and does not give me clear Insight into the heart of another, the whole story. I leave that up to the Love that we have all come from and then follow what I sense leads to freedom by trusting that GodLove Knows and that is all that matters. Living this way now, takes a huge load off of me and gives me a deeper sense of peace. I am only asked to be true to this Love’s Way and find that the rest takes care of itself if I am only willing to stay within Love, and allow IT’s Energy to flow through my bones, through my blood and skin and into the Universe I created with IT. Allowing IT to do the same with another, no matter how it may look from my human eyes and human mind in moments, appearing as a contradiction.

‘GodLove does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but GodLove looks at the heart.’

~ From the Bible

In closing, this may be a very controversial statement to make in the spiritual arena right now, yet, I feel it must be said, we are still following dogma, only now it has taken on a new ‘image’. There is a judging mentality in the ‘name of love’ that speaks harshly of the ways individuals eat and this has become a fine tuned focus in the spiritual arena, and this in my honest opinion is still looking at the outer appearances. I have known ones who do eat things that are currently being stated as impure and ‘ungodly’ and these people have been most generous, kind and loving and compassionate and a friend in need in moments, showing through their actions towards me a caring that is equal in compassion to those who may eat differently.  So, this may not be the way of defining one’s level of spirituality in my honest opinion, because this contradicts what so many are saying is ‘highly spiritual’. Only GodLove knows for sure. My human ways may not be another human’s ways of being intimately acquainted with GodLove I have come to understand and leaving my mind, heart and soul open for ongoing change in viewing these earthly matters is where I am now ~

We are each and every one a gift of GODLOVE being Present and holding on to thoughts like this will change the world we see extending from our own eyes. One by one. I have changed, and in this place, I know it will only continue. Leaving you with this thought to consider from the book ‘Healing the Heart of the World’, ‘The Perfect Dream’ by Allan Hardman,

‘If you believe that the personal dream in your mind is a true representation of what is “out there,” it will cause you endless conflict and suffering. You will believe that you are right about what you see and know, and others are wrong. You will create conflict through your need to convince others and defend yourself. You will be afraid of being wrong.’

InJoy this day ~

Be open and willing to exchange your eyes for viewing through God’s eyes your life, your loves, your Self ~

GodLove is where it never left, stop looking for IT outside and live from Being aware of Being inside IT, and this may just heal our ultimate relationship, heal our fear of intimacy through being intimate with our Self and then extending this relationship to an ‘other’,  

I am releasing this as my prayer for all ~

Radiating InLove’s Power ~

Julia

 Can Your Smart Phone Double As Your Wallet Yet?

What caught my eye was the comment made by Mr. Derene, senior technology editor of Popular Mechanics magazine, saying that most people are carrying this RFID chip around with them and they don’t even know it … 

Viewing Technology on the move ~

Be Well and InJoy this day ~

Blessings InLove ~

Julia

‘In the creative act there is an upward surge from some unknown, fertile, underground layers of the mind.’

~ Koestler

‘Let the beauty we love, be what we do.’ ~ Rumi

I love music, sharing it, singing along with it, listening to and dancing along with it.  Music is like water for the creative soul’s nourishment, a liquid language that flows and beats it rhythm through our veins, a circuit of a connecting current feeling, a universally shared experience of Heaven’s Heart touching our Heart strings while inspiring all who feel its energy ~

 … with or without words, knowing the words or not, it is something that can be InJoyed together with anyone.

 I heard this song years ago and felt the message of this song as much then as I do now, having heard it again the other day while driving along with my daughter into our day.

 Music is a Universal language that we don’t have to learn how to understand, it’s a spontaneous experience , inspiration is something that cannot be taught, it just is and we know it when we feel it.

This song Unwritten by Natahsa Bedingfield is for me an inspired song whose message will not ever be out-dated in its message.

 To our Unwritten and Unfolding Life in the making ~

 Many Blessings of Well-Being ~

 InJoy the feeling of standing before your blank page today and feel the dance rising from your feet, poised as your Soul begins to show up note by note, brush stroke by brush stroke, symbol by symbol ~

 InJoy Being  UnWritten and be Heart and Soul InSpired today ~

Sharing InLove’s Enthusiasm along with you,

Breathing it in and exhaling ~ aaahhh …

 Julia

My birthright and legacy … a peek into my Soul’s Journey and there is more to share ~

 Healing A Wounded Ego

May this bless all those whom I am openly sharing the gift of the Presence that I am bringing back into this world with me from returning from Homing in for awhile ~

Many Blessings of Well-Being, ~

InJoy this day knowing Love is in your corner,

Namaste` InLove,

Julia

‘Making the decision to have a child is momentous.  It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.’ 

~ Elizabeth Stone

I dedicate this blog today in honor of all the dad images in the world (married, single or by proxy) and to the children viewing their dad images. Whether experienced as an excellent example or not based on one’s view of childhood.

Parenting for anyone who has or is experiencing being a parent, is a new and profound life changing event that only continues to change throughout the years. We are not in the same place as we once were on that momentous day, when this new form of life was being placed into our arms for the very first time. Sensing deeper that our life continues on and will never be the same again … Little did we know how much participating in this relationship would affect the relationships in our lives … especially our own with ourselves usually viewed from our relating with our parental figures.

Gaining deeper insights through living out of our daily experiences, and with it our ability to understand those who parented us as young children unfolding throughout all the changing phases of parenthood changes too.

Some parents are more present in the daily lives of one’s childhood into adulthood and some are not. We are all given an opportunity to experience life by being present here, and the ability to make of it what we will is enough reason to honor those who are a part of the combined effort that brought us forth into this world. Coming to an understanding that it is up to each one of us to decide the way we will live our lives once we reach the age of being able to take care of ourself, no matter what the environment of our childhood upbringing was like. We can move forward into creating the life we envision for ourself that leads to our Highest Good and through this understanding flowing through us, it allows us to extend this Heartfelt intention towards another’s Highest Good as well. Removing our limitations of whatever image we see as our dad symbol, our provider and protector in our lives.

The ability to let go of our past idea of support leads into our freedom. The person you and I are today are the direct results of all our life experiences combined into this very moment by the way we are choosing to live our life based upon what we feel we have gained or feel we may have lost. By being aware of the authentic feelings we have that supports our view about life. If something was not experienced in our childhood years that created a longing within, that sounding~feeling inside is Love’s call reminding us that it is here, just misplaced and we are in the process of remembering where Love beyond measure is being provided from in this experience. A lesson in our life experience of what we are being shown to remember where this Love really comes from. We know when we feel Peace inside, stillness. For this Love gives rest to our Souls that All is Well always in all ways. We are living from a deeper trust that we are always being provided for in our life.

‘At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.’ ~ Lao Tzu

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.”

~  William S. Burroughs

We innately know what feels right to us when we move beyond believing in the external view of life being much more about others opinions and behaviours of and towards ourself, by getting in touch with our knowing how we genuinely feel about ourself, moving beyond all the images around us that once defined us. We have been given the freedom to choose what feels right for us and by actively living in awareness of this feeling, to live otherwise is to live as a slave to another. We are not ever intended to be slaves of or to another. Dad, Mom, children, family, friends, co-workers and or lovers. Reaching deeper into my authentic self and letting go more and more of my self-image as seen by other images has allowed me to free ones from any obligation of being my caregiver for life.

As my own trust has grown in seeing life from this way and my faith in this trusting being the ground from which I walk upon in this life, I have tapped into a Love without any image to draw from, extending this ongoing idea towards others, who I once held myself hostage to by basing my view of life coming from their opinions of me and the way they acted towards me as the ‘truth’ of who I really am.  My view of life has changed as my feelings have changed by being more intuned to listening to and following my inner voice.

The peace that I am now experiencing has not diminished by the external view which is continuously changing and shifting. Moving along with the changing view by remaining in the center, the eye of the storms of life trusting that my Highest outcome is being supported and clearly showing up through my increasing trust in the good of life and having enough of this peace to share in this trust with others.

We share from what we are willing to receive for ourselves.

May you receive this immeasurable Love you are sourced from eternally. We are free to live authentically when we are able to extend this Love living inside of us to all others in our life as we continue to accept ourself as being an extension of this Love without bounds.

Many people in this world have experienced less than ideal childhoods as well as many that have experienced wonderful childhoods. This world is filled with people from all kinds of backgrounds that have found the gold in their experiences and invested in it and are reaping the returns while ones are still looking for the returns through trying to salvage something that is no longer there or they feel is still missing. They keep looking for something they feel they left behind somewhere. Investing their focus and energy in the past. Letting go is realizing you have it in you and do not need to seek for it elsewhere.

Spending copious amounts of time trying to fix something that is not fixable is a waste of time and energy. What comes to mind is the Law of Diminishing Returns. Overworking a plot of ground to get it to produce more than it was intended to. The idea is to increase the supply by extending the ground and planting more seeds that will naturally increase one’s supply. Life is moving your supply source along to extend your idea of there will always be enough as we continue to move through life. Your inner souce of supply~provision is being extended … are you moving along with it or are you still looking for it in the same place it once was, is the idea that spoke to me to look into that has moved me onward. Removing whatever barred my view from seeing this supply being enough to provide for me all the days of my life experienced here.

Our mind is capable of extending our ground space to plant new seeds from. Something our parents and significant relationships may or may not have been aware of at the time, like us in our awareness at this time. Each generation learns to stretch forth from the one before or continues by choice to remain in the same way by not participating in cultivating new seedbeds, supporting our ongoing life supply.

I found that by just being willing to ask to see the truth in what was robbing me of my Joy especially during the years of viewing my life focused upon my childhood experiences, it led me into seeing it for what it is. A part of what has allowed me to unfold into the person I am today.  I am at peace with my life now and I feel this peace because somewhere along the way I changed my mind about my where my Source of supply is and these subtle and sometimes not so subtle changes are what have allowed me to see how differently I feel about my life now. I cleared new ground and began planting new seeds to increase my life supply and this is an ongoing process.

A father figure, a dad, is symbolic of provision and protection. A symbol is only a reminder of the power that lies beyond it. We can recognize what a father symbolizes by the very fact that it is innate within us, the idea of being fathered. We are capable of receiving our provision and protection for ourself as we increase in our understanding of who we authentically are beyond our outer images.

Now, in this place, I can honor my life by honoring my father and mother for bringing me into this life and blessing them as I increase~expand in my ongoing awareness that I am always taken care of by the Source of all life in me that has led me into now. Showing me through each step that I am always being shown the next step.

I am thankful for my earthly dad being a part of bringing me into this life to experience it. I am thankful for all who have been and are a part of the unfolding process of my ongoing life support. I am able to see my inner dad source everywhere ~

Many Blessings, To Your Well~Being ~

InJoy this day being open to experiencing the authentic Source of Life’s provision flowing through you, may you be aware that you are Divinely guided, guarded and protected always by the eternal dad source in you and surrounding you ~

 To Your Highest Good and Outcome,

In Immeasurable Love’s Light,

Julia

I am vibing with the feeling of this song ~

Blessings and Well~Being InLove,

InJoy ~

Julia

Shakin’ The Tree

 Namaste` to Joanna Albrecht on Facebook who lovingly shared this as I do now with you ~

Many Blessings, Be Well ~

InJoy watching and listening to Do Reasonable, Good, Eternal Video with this thought of the day flowing through from ‘A Year of Daily Wisdom Calendar’ By Marianne Williamson ~

‘As our thoughts rise, the world rises. This is the resurrection of the human mind.’

Love InSpirit,

Julia