How Do I Handle Life Changes?
“It is change , continuing change, inevitable change,
that is the dominant factor in society today.”
— Isaac Asimov
“It is in the knowledge of the genuine conditions of our lives
that we must draw our strength to live and our reasons for living.”
— Simone De Beauvoir
I am a Child of God, Universal in my life experiences. Changeable or adaptable to the constant changes in the events known as my life.
We’ve all heard the worldly, conventional ‘wisdom’ that there are two things one can be sure of in this life and that is death and taxes.
Hmm…I Asked, “Is this true? Is this what I can be ’sure’ of?” Sounds like something I don’t want to be sure of and that’s for sure!! No wonder everyone seems so unhappy and stressed out and balled up.
I’d kick and scream too!! And have. If this is all I have to look forward to.
In a peeking behind the veil moment…Aha!! Now I see it!! In childlike imagination, I shift my shape into a bird and fly high above and soar over the world. From a bird’s eye view, I am able to see something about my life in a whole other way.
Rising up and beyond the peaks of mountaintops and the clouds, the sun is always shining from this Higher view. Sometimes when I am doing a lot of ground walking, I forget this.
For awhile, I could not keep up with the constant changes. It was a being hit by a constant barrage of waves crashing into me, knocking me over again and again and playing with me by tumbling and tossing me about like a cat with a ball of string.
A game I felt I could not win, and I couldn’t if I were to continue playing with it this way
I felt like I was being unraveled and I kept on asking when this was all going to stop!!? Followed behind by thoughts of “I can’t take this or another thing happening to me or I’ll blow!! Well, obviously I am able to continually take it because it just keeps happening and I’m still here not blown up. The only difference now is, I have finally come to a place of understanding something about life.
The only thing I can be sure of in my life is that change is inevitable, a given!!
I was Inspired to Ask, to invite the Divine into my question of “How do I learn to roll with the changes since I cannot seem to change the constant changes? How do I go along with it?”
By becoming adaptable, changeable. Go with the flow. Become One with IT by not fighting against it ~
Remaining Open to the experiencing of IT.
Go along with it by allowing IT to play It Self out …
Harmony. Like Nature is harmonious. A wonderful example Nature.
Nature is like a child’s playground for me. One can build whatever one imagines, using the toys that Nature provides. Great way to pluck the strings of ones imagination and create something new.
I find when I am open minded to experiencing something new everyday,
I do.
My life becomes an interesting experience of adventuring.
Sometimes, I am faced with events that seem beyond my control. They happen so suddenly and swiftly and I find myself facing what looks like losses, feeling like I am being swept away, beyond the depths of my present level of living, the wind being knocked out of me or my sail moments…adrift in a seemingly dangerous sea.
Heart pounding moments …
In moments like these I have looked through the eyes of viewing the world as not fair, asking why is this happening to me, I feel picked on, nobody else is going through this and of course why do I have to be the one to do this thought streams. The world is against me in these moments of thinking like this and seems hostile and forbidding from this ground view…seeing only from the what I am seeing around me moments … a circular view … a swimming against the tides …
Yes, I’m having a nightmare and I am frightened. In observing myself in these moments by looking at my stream writing in my journal, I can see what I am doing or how I am reacting in these momentary events and changes.
I am looking at my tools or vessels I imagine is carrying me through my experiences ~
I tend to withdraw, close the shutters, pull the blinds and lock the doors and wrap my arms around myself tightly contracting. Refusing to leave a sinking ship.
Why I am loyal to my sinking ship!
I’ve closed my unfolding bloom to the elements. While this is a natural reflex in this way of seeing my life events, it is counter productive to allowing my good in. It is in these very moments of changes that I must remain open to expanding and receiving assistance, keeping my options open rather than holding on tightly to my sinking ship, a certain way of thinking that the answer has to be a certain way…
I have and continue to learn, in times like these, Let go of all expectations, as in the answer has to come through something that is not working, and I must make it work or else …
Or else what? Or else I am a failure, I have failed … mmm… really…
time or a moment of decision here
get back into my body and just breathe in the awareness of my life energy being in me ~
Release your defenses Julia. Instead of contracting, make another choice. Try it, try it Julia. Try something new. Be open to learning something new, a new way…
Be willing to jump ship in trusting the possiblility of jumping aboard another way of transportation ~
Rather than contracting your heart into a fist to fight against the raging adversities of life’s tides and conditions, open your Heart hand open wide and reaching out by extending it, to the experiencing of finding the touch of the hand of a friend who is reaching out for your hand alos in the same moment. This act creates hope in this Ocean sailing of life. Instead of battening down my hatches, barring the door of my heart (also known as hardening ones heart), I now choose to soften my Heart by relaxing into ny embracing my new beginnings… throwing the main sail …
Into a current yet unknown ~
Being willing to come to this place of knowing within this unknowing I receive an unexpected benefit… Time becomes my ally and friend and it comes easily to me.
Why? Because I do not fight against it nor do I surrender to it. I move with it, in flow …
I become as I am, adaptable and changeable.
I am Universal Child of God.
Changes ~ Embracing the changes by not pushing against them. Resisting …
Accepting them with open sail, open arms and saying YES! to this process of Life ~
Love to you always, extending my hand in friendship,
Hope is renewed by revisting the moments of being given hope over and over again …
Be open and willing to experience something new, be open to not knowing ‘how’ the story ends, allow yourself to experience a ‘Surprise!’ ‘ending’… or constant surprise and the wonder of IT All ~ showing off or up for you in every moment, you’ll see IT when you decide to remain open to how it will show up for you, It Always does, It never left you …
Always changing it’s costume yet the same underneath is ~ IT All ~
Many Blessings, Be Well and InJoy your ongoing or never ending story ~
Ships Ahoy!
Julia



September 11th, 2008 at 9:20 pm
by Portia Nelson
I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
V
I walk down another street
November 2nd, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Wow !!!
I just listened to this story the other day… you are just amazing!!