You Nique By Design

“The real voyage consists

not in seeking new landscapes,

but in having new eyes.”

— Marcel Proust

 

“Love is not blind.

It sees more, not less.

But because it sees more,

it is willing to see less.”

— Rabbi J. Gordon

 

“If one begins to look for love, he will find it.

If he puts conditions on love, there will be obstacles.”

— The Shariyat-Ki-Sugmad Book 1

 

“Love is not a matter of belief.

It is a matter of demonstration.

It is not a question of authority,

but one of perception.”

— Rebazar Tarzs (Stranger in the River)

 

 

Recently I was involved in a discussion in a forum I belong to, the underlying message I wished to share being about practicing Unconditional Love to others and what that concept can possibly be defined as.

 

I am an ongoing student in living in Unconditional Love as life brings me one opportunity after another to apply what I am growing into, evidenced by my actions.

 

I can only share what I have learned and am continuing to learn what being Unconditionally Loving means to me.

 

As Eternal Beings permeating (God Being) with the Unconditional Love of our Source of Origin (Energy Source), It’s our very nature to be so. When our outer eyes of perception are opened to this inner realization, it is from here that we begin to ’see’ this from the inside out and begin to live from this ‘point of viewing’.

 

The lessons are sinking in from the space between ones ears, going deeper within to ones heart space .

 

It’s realizing when I am choosing to shift my outer focus and attention from the ego mind, which keeps me in a state of re-acting (repeated patterns of conditioned responses).

 

The ego mind is focused on finding and maintaining the differences it thinks it is seeing out there in everything because it lives solely by relying only on the outer senses. Ego mind keeps trying to maintain itself as ’special’ by reinforcing a state of separation which is evident by thinking it has to ‘do something‘ to earn love, thinking love and worthiness are only received by gaining another’s approval. It is a false sense of acceptance based on an outside opinion of another regarding oneself.

 

When I am choosing to live by a Heart Led Intelligence, I know Who I Am without any outside influence. Love without any conditions (guises, ploys or motives) is Love that does not see any need to seek or earn from another what One already possesses. We live it when we are aware of having it. Seeing from a Knowing within the Inner Senses. The other way of seeing as Rumi says.

 

All are woven together within the same Universal Spirit. While we are also experiencing being Unique in Design and Purpose, we are all ‘made’ of the same substance, We are God breathed, this is our Divinely Originating Energy. When we recognize this and become awakened by the understanding of this, everything we see ‘outside’ of ourselves begins to change and transforms the way we see every thing in our lives.

 

A costume party of sorts where the same Being (God) is behind every mask.

 

Nothing as in Identity is ever lost, it’s only transformed. A process of alchemy.

 

From this ‘new’ understanding we can begin to live as the ever present gift of Love we are and we are being empowered to express this knowing in every moment of our lives to one another by our actions.

 

Our actions do not guide our knowing, our Knowing guides our actions.

 

Unconditional Love removes the barriers (sense of separation) to Love’s Presence of Unity.

 

In the Text Introduction to “A Course in Miracles” it states; “…Only the time you take is voluntary. Free will does not mean that you can establish the curriculum. It means only that you can elect what you want to take at a given time. The course does not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance. The opposite of love is fear, but what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.”

 

This course can therefore be summed up very simply in this way:

 

“Nothing real can be threatened.

Nothing unreal exists.”

 

Herein lies the peace of God.

 

What are the barriers to love’s presence and holds up these barriers that keep us from seeing and remaining in Love’s Presence? What ‘closes (bars) the door’ to letting the Love already within to flow?

 

My thoughts when fueled by ego led emotions creates the separating thoughts of ‘there’s a me and there’s a you’ thinking mind, it makes it seem we have different agendas, mine and yours and not ours.

 

Something I’ve kept tucked within as a jewel of Wisdom helpful in understanding what practicing Unconditional Love is, is this:

 

“Unconditional Love is doing by right action, what is best for the object of Love, no matter what.”

 

Unconditional Love is choosing by Right behavior (responding not re-acting) to the call or opportunity to Love the mirror image I am seeing in front of me not based on how I may feel about what I ’see’ in the moment.

 

Have you ever been able to see yourself without a mirror in this reality? That is what a projection is, a mirroring or outer reflection of what is inwardly focused on being created. My life is reflecting on what I am currently choosing to base my belief, my truth on, and it comes from my own inner thoughts, my mind. My thinking is originating from within me, not from someone else thinking for me, unless I choose to believe it is. Then I am believing I am not in control of my life.

 

Am I reacting by becoming emotional and taking offense or defending my position to be right and then projecting this onto someone or something else and say ‘they’ are doing something to me? This is what it means to think in separate terms.

 I am giving my Energy Being Self power out (allowing myself) to Be controlled by outer influences. Giving  my power away to an illusion or mirror image and not Being myself the Source of the image I am creating.

Worshipping the creation and not Worshipping the Creator.

Giving my energy to a picture and not enjoying the picture while realizing I am choosing to create by defining the picture.

I am the ‘God’ (creator) of my life.

Everything I choose is what Source is choosing with me.

My Source is InJoying this experience IN me.

 

We do not have to get entangled with the emotions or thought patterns and behaviors of another. By accepting and allowing what is in front of me to be what it is without judgment, I am removing the labels of approval and disapproval, acceptance and nonacceptance and I can remain in a peaceful state.

 

I can be okay with what is because I Know my approval comes from within myself. This is not an arrogant statement. It is knowing who we are. It’s by being aware that Loving in this way and already having this ability to love in this way is our natural state of being and always within us when we choose to be aware of this Love and draw from it.

 

We can by setting aside the tendency to automatically react from an ego led mind, change the results that come from a pushing against and shoving against another into the line of unrealistic expectations and feelings of ‘needing’ or meeting mine or another’s approval for acceptance.

 

I am able to choose to not disrespect, disapprove, or condemn another especially based on their behavior because I am trusting that the same ‘God’ that is in me and leading me is in each one and leading all in the same way.

 

All are acceptable as a Child of the Most High Father of Light, Love and All Living.

 

Un-conditional means there isn’t; an except for anything or unless you anything…before or after.

 

This Higher Love is founded on complete Trust that everything works out for the Highest Good of All. Not basing it on what I think I’m seeing in the moment with my physical eyes. I don’t know what your own chosen path is that leads you to home within anymore than you can know mine.

 

The word ‘within’ is referred to many times in all of the Holy Books. It is repeated over and over again. Why is that I Asked? Because, we forget! It is a moment by moment discipline like walking, to unlearn and undo the way we have been trained to see and listen and learn and turning around by learning anew to listen to what the Mind of God is revealing in our Inner seeing .

 

Being tuned into our Inner Guiding Self while moving in and out of a physical picture. I can be distracted when I am not paying attention to and focused on the real or true Source of my Being.

Does this mean we are to stand by and say or do nothing? Perhaps if that is what your Higher Self is telling you to do. Your Higher Self will lead you and guide you when you are willing to listen to It’s voice. Again, peace is a good indicator of who you are choosing to listen to and if you are in right action.

Becoming a parent is a one of the most humbling yet honoring experiences in learning to love oneself by practicing in loving others as myself without limitations, expectations or conditions. There are many opportunities to observe oneself, revealing what we really believe and where the beliefs are coming from. It is a Spiritually evolving experience to Ask, be challenged and move beyond by changing what and why we believe and do things the way we do.

How so?

Have you always agreed with every decision your child or anyone or yourself for that matter has ever made or is currently making?

Are you guiding only when prompted by your Higher Self or are you quick in controlling and directing by giving your advice whether asked for or not? Do you withhold love when your child or another is thinking or doing something differently than you would choose in the same circumstance? What is your immediate reaction when you are experiencing a disappointment in a choice or behavior that another has made?

Have you felt Embarrassed? Angry? Sad? Secretly pleased at seeing someone fall in an ‘I told you so’ moment? Do you shut down and close off communications? Do you feel like an open door when experiencing these things or a closed door?

Have you ever experienced being the giver or receiver of, ‘if you don’t do what I say (don’t listen to me, because I know better than you) then you will suffer from my disapproval and nonacceptance’?  You know the “Cut them off from my love” tactic.

 

Is this how we wish to treat another or be treated? Conditionally?

If you have experienced this and I believe we all have at some point, have you Asked why these life circumstances are being given to us? They just might be for our benefit to make us aware that we are doing to another what we don’t like being done to us. When ultimatums are given in thoughts or actions, we are ‘pretending at love’, ulterior motive, preconceived conditions.

Expectations. 

There’s a price tag attached. I will give you love for this in return.

Here is another opportunity to choose again, being given by your Higher Self whom loves you no matter what, and will do whatever it takes for you to find the source of false beliefs so you can make the shift to choose the freedom that comes from loving yourself no matter what, and then extending it to all others no matter what (unconditional loving) because it is your very essence.

There is no price tag to sharing this Love gift because there are no expectations to get something in return.

You just Love because Love is Who you Are. It’s your nature to be Loving.

Letting go of all results via expectations.

Not withholding the Highest Good for yourself and all others based on ‘feelings’, whims and false expectations.

A check yourself moment.

It is about sharing love with another because you love yourself and have more than enough to give. 

Receiving from an Endless Source.

Loving without conditions is being able to have a difficult but honest communication with another because it’s not based on fear. You are loving without being emotionally based. Letting one make their own life choices while staying centered. Choosing to stay or go on. Love based Knowing isn’t based on meeting another’s needs or having any needs of my own met by another to be loved.

 

Ego doesn’t like this. Ego likes self-importance and being needed. This creates neediness. You know, two halves (partial parts) make a whole.

Being In Spirit one doesn’t see needs or lacking. In Spirit we are Complete, Whole Beings. We forget this that’s all.

 

Unconditional Love is about Freedom. Whole Beings sharing a Loving experience together. You can actually begin to enjoy and grow together in relationships when both parties realize nothing is needed from another. You both have Love to share equally with one another. You are gifts to one another.

It enhances your love for yourself and for the other one of you.

It all begins when we recognize that loving ourselves no matter what, begins with accepting ourselves first, as we are right now in this moment. Let go of the I will love myself when I… that’s putting it off. Has it worked yet?

Choose right now, as you are, no matter what.

I encourage you to be your own genuine Lover of Yourself.

Watch and see what happens…

Many Blessings, Be Well,

InJoy Being the Love you Are by extending your Love to All of yourself,

You might just be surprised at how it changes your life,

Loving no matter what,

Julia