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‘The real voyage consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.’

~ Marcel Proust

 

‘Love is not blind.

It sees more, not less.

But because it sees more,

it is willing to see less.

~ Rabbi J. Gordon

 

‘If one begins to look for love, he will find it.

If he puts conditions on love, there will be obstacles.’

— The Shariyat-Ki-Sugmad Book 1

 

‘Love is not a matter of belief.

It is a matter of demonstration.

It is not a question of authority,

but one of perception.’

~ Rebazar Tarzs (Stranger in the River)

 

 

Recently I was involved in a discussion in a forum I belong to, the underlying message I wished to share being about practicing Unconditional Love to others, and what that concept can possibly be defined as.

 

I am an ongoing student of living life in and from Unconditional Love, as life brings me one opportunity after another to apply what I am growing into, evidenced by my actions extended towards others.

I can only share what I have learned, and am continuing to learn about what being Unconditionally Loving means to me.

As Eternal Beings, we are permeated by Unconditional Love from our Source of Origin (Energy Source-GOD), It’s our very nature to be so, when we participate by accepting this Love for ourself. When our outer eyes of perception are opened to this inner realization, it is from here that we begin to ’see’ this from the inside out and we can begin to live from this ‘point of view’ no matter who, what or where we are in life.

 

The lessons are sinking in from the space between our ears and eyes, as it goes deeper within, to ones heart space .

 

It’s realizing which idea of Love, I am choosing from, in order to be able to shift my outer focus and attention from the ego mind, which keeps me in a state of re-acting (repeated patterns of conditioned responses) to being able to decide to make another choice in how I will respond to what is right in front of me.

 The ego mind is focused on finding and maintaining the differences it thinks it is seeing out there in everything because it lives solely by relying only on the outer senses. Ego mindedness, keeps on trying to maintain itself as ’special’ by reinforcing a state of separation, of being superior or inferior, which is evident by thinking it has to ‘do something‘
to earn love, thinking love and worthiness are only received by gaining another’s approval. It is a false sense of acceptance based upon an outside influenced opinion of another regarding oneself.

 When I am choosing to live by a Heart Led Intelligence, I know Who I Am, without any need for an outside influence. Love without any conditions (guises, ploys or motives) is Love that does not see any need to seek or earn from another what One already possesses. We live from an InPowered Love, when we are aware of already having it. Seeing from a Knowing based within the Inner Senses.  It’s seeing in the other way of seeing, as Rumi says.

 All of us are woven together within the same ONE Universal Spirit. While we are also experiencing being You-nique by Design and Purpose, we are all ‘made’ of the same substance, We are God breathed, this is our Divinely Originating Energy. When we recognize this and become awakened by the understanding of this, everything we see ‘outside’ of ourselves begins to change and transform the way we see every thing in our lives. Our perspective is enlarged and this enlarges our perception from being solely from a me, me, me, what about me, what’s in it for me mentality.

From an UnConditional Love point of view, we can see that we have been invited to a costume party of sorts, where the same Being (GOD) is behind every masked character.

 

Nothing, as in our Authentic Identity is ever lost, it is only transformed. A process of Sacred alchemy.

 From this ‘new way’ of understanding, we can begin to live as the ever present gift of Love we are, and we are being empowered to express this knowing in every moment of our lives to one another by our actions.

Our actions do not guide our knowing, our Knowing guides our actions.

 

Unconditional Love removes the barriers (separation through outer identification only) to Love’s Presence of Unity.

 

In the Text Introduction to ‘A Course in Miracles’, it states, ‘Only the time you take is voluntary. Free will does not mean that you can establish the curriculum. It means only that you can elect what you want to take at a given time.
The course does not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance.
The opposite of love is fear, but what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.’

 

This course can therefore be summed up very simply in this way:

‘Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herein lies the peace of God.’

 

What are the barriers to love’s presence that is continuing to hold up these barriers that keep us from seeing and remaining in Love’s Presence? What ‘closes (bars) the door’ to letting the Love already Present, to flow?

My thoughts and actions, when fueled by ego led emotions, creates the separation through labels, of ‘there’s a me and there’s a you’ mentality, from this way, we have different agendas, mine and yours. We are focused on looking at one another more, and how different we are than looking in the same direction, with the same purpose in mind, while appreciating the You-nique part we all play in supporting the whole picture.

 

A jewel of Wisdom, I’ve kept tucked within that has been very helpful in understanding what practicing Unconditional Love is, is this:

 

‘Unconditional Love is doing by right minded action, what is best for the object of Love, no matter what.’

 ~ Unknown

Unconditional Love is choosing by Right Minded behavior (responding not re-acting) to the call or opportunity to Love the mirror image I am seeing in front of me, not based solely upon how I may feel about what I ’see’ in the moment.

Have you ever been able to see yourself without a mirror in this reality? That is what a projection is, a mirroring or outer reflection of what is inwardly focused on being created. Everything in my outer life is a reflection of what I am currently choosing to base my belief, my truth on, and it comes from my own inner thoughts, my mind, and my choice of emotions. My thinking is originating from within me, not from someone else thinking for me, unless I choose to believe it is.
Then I am believing I am not in control of my life. I have in essence given the control of my life over to an other to guide it, by their thinking taking over for my own. This is a learned trait.

 Becoming still is when I slow down and notice, whether I am reacting from my ego mind by becoming emotional and taking offense, or defending my position to be right which means the other is ‘wrong’, and then projecting this onto someone or something else, and then saying ‘they’ are doing something wrong to me? This is what it means to think in separate terms. We are giving our power to someone or something outside of ourself. In order to do this, we now see ourself as being power-less, and they as being power-full.

I am giving my power ‘away’ by closing my awareness of it, from myself, (allowing myself) to Be controlled by an outer influence. My power is now seen as no power, or someone else has usurped my power to make my own choices! I am giving my power away to an illusion or mirror image, whenever I give it away from myself, by not recognizing myself, in recognizing I am the Source of the image I am creating. No one else can see the world through my eyes, and this is genuinely true for you too. Only you can see the world through your eyes, and have your thoughts, emotions and impressions. No one else. We tend to forget this…

And this is what the idea of Worshipping the creation more than the Creator means. Worshipping in the sense of giving more power or influence to someone or something outside, that is a temporary passing through ’thing’. You remain as the Source of your impressions of what you see, hear and experience. Life defined accordinly, in your own ‘words’…

In this way, I am giving my energy over to attaching myself to a picture image, and not just viewing the picture while realizing I am choosing to experience it, by the way I am defining the picture.

I am the ‘God’ (creative expressor) of my life choices.

Everything I choose is what Source is choosing to allow with me. Giving me that which my Heart places its’ most ‘weight’ upon. Desire can be defined as whatever we place the most energy into experiencing…

My Source is having this experience through me, how personal is this? To share an experience with the Life Giving Source of All Life this intimately?

Wow. hmm…knowing this, I am able to choose the way I perceive all of my life experiences…

We do not have to get ourselves entangled with the emotions, or thought patterns, and behaviors of another. By accepting and allowing what is in front of me to be what it is without judgment, I am not placing a limiting label of approval or disapproval, acceptance or nonacceptance upon it, I simply allow it to be what it is, and I can remain in a peaceful state when allowing life to be the way it is, constantly unfolding. As children, we lived life in moment by moment experience of our natual flowing impressions. We did not wake up with a set agenda each day…nor did we grade ourselves.

Another way of saying this is in essence, ‘God is doing a very good ‘job’ of handling the whole Universe.’ And I can live InJoy of Trusting this while I go about my day ~

I can be peaceful and okay with what is, because I Trust my knowing, that my approval of myself comes from within myself, where GOD-Source put it. This is not an arrogant statement. It is knowing who we authentically are. It’s by being aware that Loving in this way, and already having this ability to love in this way, is our natural state of being-our essence of who we are, and IT IS always right here within us when we choose to be aware of this Love, and draw from being aware of ITs Presence in us.

UnConditional Love is everywhere Present. IT permeates this world ~ and we are in the very midst of IT ~

 We are able, by setting aside the tendency to automatically react from an ego led mind, to make another choice, to change the results that come from a pushing against, and shoving against another, into the line of unrealistic expectations and feelings of ‘needing’ or meeting mine, or another’s approval for acceptance.

I am able to choose to not disrespect, disapprove, or condemn another, especially based on my ability to respond, because I am trusting that the same ‘God’ that is in me and leading me, is in each one and leading all in the same way. I am in essence dis-respecting, dis-approving and condemning myself when acting this way towards others. I alone am responsible for how I choose to respond to any one, no matter how they may be behaving…

 

All are acceptable as a Child of the Most High, The Father of All Light, UnConditional Love and The Ground of All Living Being.

 

Un-conditional means there isn’t an exception for anything, no only if you do this for me, I will give you this…or …unless you anything…before or after.

 This Highest Idea of Love, is founded on complete Trust, that there is a Greater Purpose unfolding for the Highest Good of All. Not basing life upon what I think I’m seeing in this moment with my physical eyes. I don’t know what your own chosen path is that leads you home, or what it will take for you to be home, anymore than you can know mine.

 

The word ‘within’ is referred to many times in all of the Holy Books. It is repeated over and over again. Why is that I Asked? Because, we forget! It is a moment by moment discipline like walking, to unlearn and undo the way we have been trained to see and listen and learn and we are constantly being re-minded to turn around by learning to make another choice, turning our outwards attention inwards, to be able to listen and hear what the Mind of God is revealing in our Inner chambers. Tuning into our Inner Guidance, while integrating The Spirit’s ways into the physical world. I can be distracted when I am not paying attention to being focused on the real or true Source of my Being.

Does this mean we are to stand by and say and/or do nothing? Perhaps, if that is what your Higher Self is telling you to do. Your Higher Self will lead you and guide you when you are willing to pay attention and listen to It’s voice. Again, peace is a good indicator of who you are choosing to listen to, and notice if you are in right action. Inner peace will be your True Witness.

Becoming a parent is one of the most humbling, yet honoring experiences in learning to love oneself by practicing in loving others as myself without limitations, expectations or conditions. There are many opportunities to observe ourself, revealing what we really believe and where the beliefs are coming from. It is a Spiritually evolving experience to Ask, then be challenged to move beyond our current limited experience, by changing what and why we believe, and the reason we do things the way we do.

How so?

Have you always agreed with every decision your child, or anyone else, or yourself for that matter, has ever made or is currently making?

How do you respond or react when someone does not agree with you? Are you quick to give your advice whether asked for or not? Do you withhold love when your child or another is thinking or doing something differently than you would choose in the same circumstance? What is your immediate reaction when you are experiencing a disappointment in a choice or behavior that another has made?

Have you ever felt Embarrassed? Angry? Sad? Have you ever wanted to get ‘even’ with someone? Have you ever been secretly pleased at seeing someone fall in an ‘I told you so’ moment? Do you shut down and close off communications?
Do you feel like you are an open door when experiencing these things or a closed door?

Have you ever experienced being the giver or receiver of, ‘if you don’t do what I say (don’t listen to me, because I know better than you) then you will suffer from my disapproval and non-acceptance?’ You know, the ‘Cut them off from my love’ tactic. Is this how we wish to be treated? Conditionally? A set up of jumping through hoops to be able to get a taste, a crumb of love? A quick view as Love goes walking by?

If you have ever experienced feeling this way, and I believe we all have at some point, have you ever Asked why these life circumstances are being given to us? They just might be for our benefit to make us aware of what we are doing to another, what we don’t like being done to us. When ultimatums are given in thoughts or actions, we are ‘pretending at Love’, we have ulterior motives, preconceived conditions, manipulating someone for something. This is a strings attached giving of Love. And not UnConditional Love at all…

There’s a price tag attached. I will give you love only…for this in return.

Do you have any Expectations? They might be hidden. Ego Mindedness is very clever at making hidden motives look good on the surface, while underneath the intention is anything but. And so, our ego, covers up its motives with guises.

Here is another opportunity to choose again, being given by your Higher Self whom loves you no matter what, and will do whatever it takes for you to find the source of false beliefs so you can make the decision to choose freedom that comes from loving yourself no matter what, and then extending it to all others, no matter what (unconditional loving) because it is your very essence of being created from The HeartMind of All Life.

There isn’t a price tag to sharing this Love gift, because there are no expectations to get something in return. You extend it, share it with others, the same way it has been shared and given to you. Freely, the way you are in very the moment this Love becomes Present in your awareness.

You just Love because Love is Who you Are. It’s your nature to be Loving, when you realize that Love is Whom you come from.

Letting go of all results via expectations. There is no thinking in being UnConditionally Loving. You are in the stream, the current and being carried within IT.

Not withholding the Highest Good for yourself and all others based on ‘emotional feelings’, whims and false expectations.

A check yourself moment.

It is about sharing love with another because you love yourself and have more than enough to give, you’ve tapped into the Source of All Love. Receiving from an Endless Source, an overflowing fountain…

Loving without conditions is also learning to be honest in your speech and actions. It’s being able to have a difficult but honest communication with another because it’s not based on fear. You are loving without being emotionally based on selfish motives. Letting one make their own life choices while staying centered on loving them the way they are. Choosing to stay or go on. Love based Knowing isn’t based on meeting another’s needs, or having any needs of my own met by another to be able to be loved.
 

Ego doesn’t like this. Ego likes self-importance, approval, and being needed. This creates neediness. You know, two halves (partial parts) make a whole.

Being In Spirit, one doesn’t see needs or lacking. In Spirit we are Complete, Whole Beings and integrate this knowing into the physical. We seem to forget this in moments.

 Unconditional Love is about Freedom. A Whole Being sharing a Loving experience with an other reflection of ITSelf. Two images of One Soul. You can actually begin to enjoy and grow together in relationships when both parties realize that nothing is needed from another. You both have everything you ‘need’ within, Love enough to share equally with one another. You are a source of unfolding gifts to one another.

It enhances your love for yourself, and for the other ones of you, you see all around you through your physical eyes…

It all begins when we recognize that loving ourselves no matter what, begins with accepting ourselves first, as we are right now in this moment. Let go of the I will love myself only when I… that’s putting it off. Has it worked yet?

You have the freedom, the freewill, to choose for yourself right now, in this moment, as you are, no matter what.

I encourage you to be your own genuine Lover of Yourself.

Watch and see what happens…

Many Blessings, Be Well,

InJoy Being the Love you already are, begin practicing through extending your Love to All of yourself as others, just for this day ~

You might just be surprised at how it changes your life, from the inside out ~

Loving no matter what,

Julia

 

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